As I stood in the living room folding laundry that had been sitting in the dryer for two days (Geesh, did I really just admit to that?) at 9:20 one night, I had a thought. I’m jealous of celebrities … and not for the reasons that you think I am. Its not because they have so much money or because they can travel anywhere and not worry about who’s covering them at work … well, maybe those reasons would be included in my jealous thoughts but that’s NOT the main reason.
Its because these ‘working mom’ celebrities all have help. They have a maid, a nanny and a personal assistant. What I wouldn’t give to have someone come over and fold this laundry, pick up my son from school and just run checks to the bank for me.
I realized that I could get so much more work done if I had a personal assistant and who was cool to do a little cleaning on the side. Not an assistant in that Brady Bunch’s Alice ‘I’m a strange woman’ way, more like the Fran Dresher from Nanny kind of way. I could put up with that laugh for some help!
When I have this conversation with my mom-friends, the main thing I realized is that they have a support system at home. Let’s be honest, we know their husbands aren’t doing the laundry but some of them have actually cooked dinner while a few others picked up their kids from school. I realized that I needed to find a support system to get me through my Authentic Journey.
So where does a divorced single mom find a support system? My research led me to something called CafeMom.com where I can connect with other single working moms. When I clicked in and found 120 groups for single moms, I clicked right back out. This is about regaining my lost time not finding one more web site I need to go to every day to check in with others (hey – I’ve got Pinterest for that!).
Here is the part where I ask for your advice – please let me know if you have any suggestions for how any of you have figured out to grow a support system for yourself. My business/speaking opportunities are growing and I’m currently sorting through all the writing projects I feel compelled to write. I feel the pressure of trying to get everything done so I’m constantly trying to find creative ways to get more time in my day.
And if anyone knows a personal assistant who’d love to work for free, please send them my way! You know, now that I think about it, I don’t think that I’ve seen Fran Dresher on TV except for that weird show on TVLand … do you think she needs a job? Hey Fran … call me …
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